September 2020

Op-Ed from Disgruntled Sorority Member

Question for the culture:

Once all of this social distancing and social justice stuff is over—can I please go back to late-nighting in dirty frat houses, Amazon Prime-ing expensive themed outfits for questionably themed mixers, or being a loyal Shooters patron—or whatever I want—without being crucified or saying that I’m glamorizing rape culture and white privilege??????

I’m fed up with my unaffiliated Duke women saying that I’m an elitist when in reality I’m just a person born into privilege (not my choice!) seeking genuine relationships in a community of girls I can relate to, which is more important than ever considering the treatment of women all over the world.

With all of the topics women are finally allowed to explore I just want to say, over the last ten years, I think it’s pathetic that my choice to join a community of like-minded women who enjoy having a sisterhood and going to exclusive social events together has often made people say I’ve set women back hundreds of years.

Let this be clear, I’m not not a feminist—but there has to be a place in feminism for women who look and act like me—the kind of woman who wants to curate a friend group of people who share her background—the kind of women who are slated mercilessly for being their authentic, delicate selves. The kind of women who get their own stories and voices taken away from them by radical Illyria girls or misogynistic ex-DSig guys.

I’ve been honest and optimistic about the challenges I’ve faced in Greek Life.

News flash! That’s just how it is for many women.

And that was sadly my experience up until the point that the “Abolish Greek Life” account started. So I just want to say it’s been a long three years of bullshit up until recently and I’ve learned a lot from them.

But I also feel Panhel really paved the way for other women to stop ‘putting on a happy face’ and to just be able to act however the hell they wanted to on campus—unlike my experience where if I even expressed my personal experience as someone with a summer home I was deemed literally bourgeois as though it was literally Communist Russia.

Anyways, none of this has anything to do about much but I’ll be detailing some of my feelings in my next Instagram stories. Yes, I’m still posting about the importance of voting for Joe Biden which I’m very happy about. And I’m sure there will be tinges of what I’ve been pondering in my next op ed which will be published in The Chronicle.

Thanks for reading.

****When I said people who look like me—I meant the people who are thin and beautiful and don’t look necessarily smart, or like they’re in control etc. It’s about advocating for a more feminine personality, not for white women—thanks for the Karen comments tho. V helpful.****

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